Bad Boys and Women

Probably one of the most straight to the point lyrics of a song goes like this: 

"I knew you where trouble when you walked in" 

Yes, Taylor Swift gets it, but also finds it. (Too many relationships probz?) 

Who of us girls hasn't found a bad boy (those tattoo wearing, rocker complex, misbehaved boys that want to break every rule they might find on their way) too attractive and just fell for him? But what about the good boys? 

This is a topic one of my guy friends and I were discussing yesterday over a very chill afternoon. He said, every girl likes to get their hearts broken, why so masochistic?! 

All I had to say was, "Actually you've got a point there" Why on earth, us girls like to be on the edge? Is it the adrenaline, the excitement and the danger that makes us go coo-coo crazy over those bad boys?

I have quite an inner debate about good boy vs. bad boy. I like to be treated right, I like those 20's gentlemen that will court you, prepare your life and make it the best they can, but then realize that I don't live in the good old 1920's and that in our society, the vast majority of boys are not the ones that take their time to court a girl for months. They want everything ASAP, and maybe us girls want that too (just not many of us will take their time to know the boy) 

My friend is one of those good boys, but with a twist, he likes girls to think that he is a total womanizer, when in reality, he is terrified to sustain a proper conversation when he likes a girl (Sorry JP! you know I love you!) 

With good boys, there is no mystery, you know what they will do, you know how they behave, you know that they might do nothing to upset you and that their feelings are true to what they preach. So why not settle with that? Why try to go find a boy that will crush your heart, your dreams and even (sometimes) your dignity? 

Oh yes, because, We are masochists, not in the bad sense of the word, but in the oh-I-want-something-exciting-to-happen-this-time-not-settle-with-routine kind of way. Even if that doesn't make much sense at the time. 

But secretly, we all want a bad boy, but one who knows when to be a bad one and when to be a good one. 

We girls like our independence, but every once in a while we like someone who can protect us from adversity and then be like our childhood teddy-bears. 

So boys, we tend to be bi polar, but you guys can be worse. But worse is fine, worse is good when you know how to distinguish the different situations. 

What kind of boy do you like girls? or are in a constant inner debate like I am? 

Comment below and let me know :) 

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The Fifty Shades Trilogy

This is a very avant-guard novel for women. Personally I was hesitant to read the Fifty Shades trilogy. Because I knew some of the content (if not all) was that X rated. I am a fully conscious young adult that women sexuality, in the last couple of years, has become a mayor topic. If not, tell me about Magic Mike. A very good movie. I know. 

As hesitant as I was, I decided to go ahead and read it. To my surprise it was a very good book. Don't take me as a professional writer, or book critique, and mainly I have no idea on how the style should be taken and done with it anything. I am just a person who like to read (which I do just sporadically due to time issues) and have no more idea than that. 

I was engaged in this love story. Yes it is a love story, a very possessive and weird and sexual one, but a love story after all. Anastasia and Christian are the epitome of perfection. He has the money, the looks, the brain and the power. Ana has also the looks, the brains and all his money...although by association. 

I really recommend the books from my very unexperienced point of view. I know this is not a book review, I am just sharing my opinions on this trilogy I read a little over 2 months now and which (kind of obsessively) reading again, but now slower so that I get to understand everything that I might have missed on the previous excitement of the saga. 

There is a huge buzz now relating to the movies, if they are too X rated for the big screen, or who is the best actor to play Christian and who is the best actress to play Anastasia. Either way, I think they need to be very good actors, because these books involve a lot of inner retrospection and both characters are very troubled in their own mysterious ways. 

I hope you grab your copies and share what you think about the books. I recommend that if you are not of legal age, or are very vulnerable with the whole sexuality tids and bits, you should restrain due to very graphic descriptions. 

Have a nice day! 

xo, 

S.A 

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